I loved this interesting, thoughtful, view challenging video on addiction so much. This was shared by a fellow Trauma Informed Group member at work and I wanted to share it here. I think there may be valid arguments about why addiction may be more complicated than what this video explains, and there may be various contributing factors to addictions, but it was really cool to watch and learn from.
As a prelude to posting the video, I had some thoughts:
We all have the potential for our own personal struggles, whatever those may be, and I think it’s important to be open to acknowledging the struggles we may have, and to be open to reaching for help and support if we need it. We deserve that, and so do those we love and care about.
When others are struggling, and may need help beyond a listening ear, We can learn about what those loved ones and people we care about may be going through, from their perspective, and we can allow (and encourage) others to reach out to those qualified to help more deeply than the love and support we may be able to offer.
Sometimes we may need to protect ourselves, to maintain boundaries, and we may sometimes need to keep our distance from individuals for various reasons and in various situations. This is okay. And We don’t have to (and can’t) fix everyone (and most of us are not qualified to offer professional advice), but, when it is safe and when we are open to doing so, we can care, we can listen, and we can hold off from judging, especially if we don’t understand the other person’s experience. And we won’t, unless they tell us, and even then we are all so complicated. The wonderfully, complicated, resilient, multi-layered, messy human beings we are.
I know this video and these thoughts may be seen as dark and this could be a potentially very sad subject, but I think it’s important. And the influx of stressors that can lead to potentially destructive behaviours can be a problem for many, definitely over the colder months and most definitely for many during the holiday season. As cheery as some of us are for holidays, it doesn’t mean the same thing for all of us, and it doesn’t always represent happy memories and warmth for all.
Here are some favourite points (out of many) from this short, super cool video along with the link, if you choose to watch.
“It’s not the chemicals, it’s your cage. We need to think about addiction differently. Human beings have an innate need to bond and connect. When we are happy and healthy, we will bond with the people around us. But when we can’t because we are traumatized, isolated, or beaten down by life, we will bond with something that gives us some sense of relief, it might be endlessly checking a smart phone, it might be pornography, videogames, reddit, gambling, or it might be cocaine. But we will bond with something, because that is our human nature.
“The path out of unhealthy bonds, is to form healthy bonds. To be connected with people you want to be present with. Addiction is just one symptom of the crisis of disconnection that is happening all around us. We all feel it.”