Catching up with a great woman: Change and Support

A little while back, I had a visit with a woman I have not seen in a really long time. She is a very important person to me and even though, with the busyness of our different lives, we don’t see each other regularly, whenever we do meet or chat, it seems that we can just pick right up where we left off.

I was so excited about this particular catch up knowing she has many new things going on in her life.

Generally, she has a very magnetic, positive demeanor, with this easy laugh, and a really insightful and cool perspective on many things. This time, she looked a bit sad and had a heaviness about her. Being someone who doesn’t often seem to get dragged down by much, I thought it was likely that something significant was getting to her. I asked what was going on.

 She started talking about her many new changes and how excited she was about them, but also how she wanted some important people to be involved in those things who didn’t seem to want to be. She stated she didn’t necessarily want these important people to do these new things themselves, but wanted them to at least show some interest or to offer some supportive words once in a while. These people have been really important staples in her life for a long time, through many phases, and it was easy to see how she could want to have them there.

 It can be really difficult when we don’t feel as supported as maybe we feel we should be, or when we miss people who we want to have around, but we can’t control other people and not everyone is meant to be (or able to be) a part of every step in our lives.

I don’t think it’s always with malicious intent or that we have to dismiss people who we don’t feel are supportive (although in some cases, we may need to), but we can focus on those who are and continue to focus on our own inner strength and drive. From that, we can save a whole lot of energy and more support, inner strength, and drive will be available to us.

The right people, supportive circumstances, and helpful resources will always come along when we are open to that. And these things will come along exactly when they should. We can be confident in that and, I think, when we are confident in that, that’s when more great things can start to happen. This is when our actions and the circumstances we place ourselves in will naturally make great things happen.

You are right where you need to be.

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2 thoughts on “Catching up with a great woman: Change and Support

  1. Gary says:

    “It can be really difficult when we don’t feel as supported as maybe we feel we should be, or when we miss people who we want to have around, but we can’t control other people and not everyone is meant to be (or able to be) a part of every step in our lives.” For me, that is a profound statement. It is easy to become egocentric in one’s view of the world yet if we don’t separate our emotions occasionally from what we perceive as reality, only frustration awaits us.

  2. Shannon Lovell says:

    Well said!! When I look back on the times of growth in my life I have always spent a great deal of time alone. Even when I wanted people to be with me for one reason or another they couldn’t be. I had to look inside myself and usually came out the other side a better person.

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